25 Red Flags of Sex Predators:
Warning Signs in Adults and Children: http://www.parentsprotect.co.uk/warning_signs.htm
- Free babysitting
- Will use threats before touching your child; threats are powerful....they say things like "I will kill your parents, friends, pets." This ensures the child will NEVER tell. A child will never jeopardize your safety and that's why they rarely tell. The child will protect their parent at all costs because they believe the abuser. A predator will tell your child that they will go to jail too because they liked it. They will convince your child that it is their fault.
- Excessive gift-giving, even small gifts like coloring books may be given to your children
- Offering to babysit; sometimes using pressure or what can appear to be generous offers for "date night" or to give you a break.
- Giving a lot of attention to one child, while ignoring another. They like to treat one child as if they are special, while alienating the other.
- Constantly giving the kids candy and treats
- They seem more interested in talking to kids than socializing with adults
- They will often innocently touch your child right in front of you, to assure the child that it's okay
- Will use the phrase.....it's just a secret
- Insist on time with the child, and might ask if they can keep your child overnight
- May pick on one particular child
- Can slip and say unkind things about your child
- Charming, persuasive, manipulative, masking their narcissistic personality
- Grooming the family first for long periods of time before asking to babysit or have access to your child
- Asking to bath your child or bathing them without permission
- Making t-shirts so they have an excuse to take off your child's clothes. Buying blow-up pools, so the children can take off their clothes.
- Constantly have new toys from flea markets or excessive toy buying
- Involved in extracurricular activities that involve children, but they don't have children of their own.
- May comment about the child's appearance
- Being estranged from their family
- Multiple divorces
- Could place themselves in prominent positions, such as being a pillar in the community
- Flattery of the parents, your accomplishments, etc.
- Someone suggesting your child is troubled or prone to bad behavior
- Frequently walk in on a child in the bathroom
Warning Signs in Adults and Children: http://www.parentsprotect.co.uk/warning_signs.htm